{"id":513,"date":"2022-03-29T17:54:01","date_gmt":"2022-03-29T21:54:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/?post_type=chapter&p=513"},"modified":"2022-03-29T17:54:32","modified_gmt":"2022-03-29T21:54:32","slug":"debate-vs-dialogue","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/chapter\/debate-vs-dialogue\/","title":{"raw":"Debate vs. Dialogue","rendered":"Debate vs. Dialogue"},"content":{"raw":"Merriam Webster Dictionary defines Dialogue as \u201ca conversation between two or more persons, an exchange of ideas and opinions.\u201d When we are stuck in our own worldview during a conflict, we can slip into a debate rather than a dialogue. In a debate, rather than listening to understand the other person, we listen so that we can refute their ideas; our goal becomes winning - rather than transforming - the conflict.\r\n\r\nThe following graphic contrasting debate and dialogue comes from diversity coach Holiday Phillips<\/a>. <\/em>Dialogue is the goal!<\/a>\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_514\" align=\"aligncenter\" width=\"500\"]\"debate [Image description]<\/a>[\/caption]\r\n

Image Description<\/h3>\r\n<\/a>Debate vs. dialogue<\/strong>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
debate<\/th>\r\ndialogue<\/th>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Assumes<\/strong> there is one right answer (and you have it)<\/td>\r\nAssumes<\/strong> others have pieces of an answer and you can craft a solution together<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Style<\/strong> is combative, attempting to prove the \"other side\" wrong<\/td>\r\nStyle<\/strong> is collaborative, seeks to find common understanding<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Listens<\/strong> to find flaws and counter argue<\/td>\r\nListens<\/strong> to understand<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Critiques<\/strong> only the other position<\/td>\r\nCritiques<\/strong> all views, including your own<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Defends<\/strong> your own views at all costs<\/td>\r\nAllows<\/strong> others' thinking to improve your own<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Encourages<\/strong> search for differences<\/td>\r\nEncourage<\/strong> search for basic agreement<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Creates<\/strong> a winner\/loser and discourages further conversation<\/td>\r\nCreates<\/strong> an open end, leaving the topic open for further discussion<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Involves<\/strong> no focus on feelings, often actively seeking to belittle or offend<\/td>\r\nInvolves<\/strong> a real concern for the other, doesn't actively seek to alienate or offend<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<\/tbody>\r\n<\/table>\r\n[Return to place in the text]<\/a>\r\n

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Merriam Webster Dictionary defines Dialogue as \u201ca conversation between two or more persons, an exchange of ideas and opinions.\u201d When we are stuck in our own worldview during a conflict, we can slip into a debate rather than a dialogue. In a debate, rather than listening to understand the other person, we listen so that we can refute their ideas; our goal becomes winning – rather than transforming – the conflict.<\/p>\n

The following graphic contrasting debate and dialogue comes from diversity coach Holiday Phillips<\/a>. <\/em>Dialogue is the goal!<\/a><\/p>\n

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<\/a>Debate vs. dialogue<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
debate<\/th>\ndialogue<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n
Assumes<\/strong> there is one right answer (and you have it)<\/td>\nAssumes<\/strong> others have pieces of an answer and you can craft a solution together<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Style<\/strong> is combative, attempting to prove the “other side” wrong<\/td>\nStyle<\/strong> is collaborative, seeks to find common understanding<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Listens<\/strong> to find flaws and counter argue<\/td>\nListens<\/strong> to understand<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Critiques<\/strong> only the other position<\/td>\nCritiques<\/strong> all views, including your own<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Defends<\/strong> your own views at all costs<\/td>\nAllows<\/strong> others’ thinking to improve your own<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Encourages<\/strong> search for differences<\/td>\nEncourage<\/strong> search for basic agreement<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Creates<\/strong> a winner\/loser and discourages further conversation<\/td>\nCreates<\/strong> an open end, leaving the topic open for further discussion<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Involves<\/strong> no focus on feelings, often actively seeking to belittle or offend<\/td>\nInvolves<\/strong> a real concern for the other, doesn’t actively seek to alienate or offend<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

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