{"id":525,"date":"2022-03-29T18:16:16","date_gmt":"2022-03-29T22:16:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/?post_type=chapter&p=525"},"modified":"2022-03-29T18:25:52","modified_gmt":"2022-03-29T22:25:52","slug":"deep-listening-self-assessment","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/chapter\/deep-listening-self-assessment\/","title":{"raw":"Deep Listening Self-Assessment","rendered":"Deep Listening Self-Assessment"},"content":{"raw":"Please honestly assess your own strengths and weaknesses as a listener.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Question<\/th>\r\nAssessment: 1 - Most of the Time, 6 - Rarely<\/th>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
In conversation, I easily remember that everything I think is coming from my own worldview & experiences.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am aware of my judgments and biases in conversation.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am able to suspend those judgements and biases when I am in conversation with someone else.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am able to stay focused on what the other person is saying.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am able to listen empathically to someone else. (This means that I am doing the best I can to experience their frame of reference, vs filtering what they are saying through my worldview.)<\/em><\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I ask questions so that I can understand their perspective. (I am not asking questions so that they can see my perspective.)<\/em><\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am aware that I might be tempted to over-relate to what the person is saying. (This focuses the conversation on me, rather than supporting the other person.)<\/em><\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I can share a sense of \u201cI get it\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve been there\u201d without making the conversation all about me.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am aware of how advice-giving steals the other person\u2019s self-determination.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Instead of giving advice, I ask powerful questions to access the person\u2019s inner teacher.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
When I don\u2019t agree with the person, I still work to see things from their perspective.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
When I am listening to someone else, I am listening to their untold story.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I can pay attention to the things not being said, such as tone, body language, eye content, so that I can try to \u201chear\u201d what is not<\/strong> being said. (While I do this, I take care NOT to make assumptions. Instead, I ask powerful questions.)<\/em><\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am OK to sit with silence, to give myself time to process before I reply.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I can stay PEER when I am listening and avoid slipping into a more clinical role or perspective.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
People feel comfortable talking to me because I listen well. I have received this feedback from many.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I can listen deeply even when I sense that someone is agitated or angry.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I can listen deeply to people who are different from me.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am curious, and respectful of the person to whom I am listening.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am curious about the life experiences of people I don\u2019t know.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I am curious about the life experiences of people I do know well.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
I still feel curious about someone when their worldview is really different from mine.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
When I am listening to someone with a different worldview, I take care to not make assumptions.<\/td>\r\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<\/tbody>\r\n<\/table>\r\nWhat are your strengths as a listener?\r\n\r\nWhat are your opportunities for growth?\r\n\r\nWhat benefits do you see in improving your listening skills?\r\n\r\nWhat is one specific action you will make to deepen your listening?","rendered":"

Please honestly assess your own strengths and weaknesses as a listener.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Question<\/th>\nAssessment: 1 – Most of the Time, 6 – Rarely<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n
In conversation, I easily remember that everything I think is coming from my own worldview & experiences.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am aware of my judgments and biases in conversation.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am able to suspend those judgements and biases when I am in conversation with someone else.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am able to stay focused on what the other person is saying.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am able to listen empathically to someone else. (This means that I am doing the best I can to experience their frame of reference, vs filtering what they are saying through my worldview.)<\/em><\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I ask questions so that I can understand their perspective. (I am not asking questions so that they can see my perspective.)<\/em><\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am aware that I might be tempted to over-relate to what the person is saying. (This focuses the conversation on me, rather than supporting the other person.)<\/em><\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I can share a sense of \u201cI get it\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve been there\u201d without making the conversation all about me.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am aware of how advice-giving steals the other person\u2019s self-determination.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Instead of giving advice, I ask powerful questions to access the person\u2019s inner teacher.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
When I don\u2019t agree with the person, I still work to see things from their perspective.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
When I am listening to someone else, I am listening to their untold story.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I can pay attention to the things not being said, such as tone, body language, eye content, so that I can try to \u201chear\u201d what is not<\/strong> being said. (While I do this, I take care NOT to make assumptions. Instead, I ask powerful questions.)<\/em><\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am OK to sit with silence, to give myself time to process before I reply.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I can stay PEER when I am listening and avoid slipping into a more clinical role or perspective.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
People feel comfortable talking to me because I listen well. I have received this feedback from many.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I can listen deeply even when I sense that someone is agitated or angry.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I can listen deeply to people who are different from me.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am curious, and respectful of the person to whom I am listening.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am curious about the life experiences of people I don\u2019t know.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I am curious about the life experiences of people I do know well.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
I still feel curious about someone when their worldview is really different from mine.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
When I am listening to someone with a different worldview, I take care to not make assumptions.<\/td>\n1\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a02\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a03\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a04\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a05\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a06<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

What are your strengths as a listener?<\/p>\n

What are your opportunities for growth?<\/p>\n

What benefits do you see in improving your listening skills?<\/p>\n

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