{"id":582,"date":"2022-03-30T12:58:36","date_gmt":"2022-03-30T16:58:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/?post_type=chapter&p=582"},"modified":"2022-03-30T12:58:37","modified_gmt":"2022-03-30T16:58:37","slug":"the-power-of-a-hopeful-response-to-suicidal-ideation","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/chapter\/the-power-of-a-hopeful-response-to-suicidal-ideation\/","title":{"raw":"The Power of a Hopeful Response to Suicidal Ideation","rendered":"The Power of a Hopeful Response to Suicidal Ideation"},"content":{"raw":"When someone we\u2019re working with shares that they are contemplating suicide, it is important that we choose hope-based rather than fear-based responses. When we respond from fear, we react based on what we\u2019re afraid might happen or what we think might be wrong. When we respond from hope, we respond based on what we believe is possible and with hope for co-creating something new.\r\n\r\nThe following chart is shared from Shery Mead\u2019s Intentional Peer Support work and highlights the difference between a Hope Response (what we refer to above as a hopeful response) and a Fear Response (fear-based response) when supporting someone who expresses suicidal ideation:\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
Hope Response<\/th>\r\nFear Response<\/th>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Sitting with the discomfort of the situation<\/td>\r\nTrying to calm things down: stabilization<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Staying connected to the person<\/td>\r\nTaking care of, helper\/helpee<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n
Unpredictability = Possibility<\/td>\r\nPredictability: things go back to the way they were.<\/td>\r\n<\/tr>\r\n<\/tbody>\r\n<\/table>\r\n

Some Things to Remember<\/h1>\r\nWhen supporting someone who is contemplating suicide, keep the following in mind:\r\n
    \r\n \t
  • Remind them that they are not alone<\/li>\r\n \t
  • Express your care and concern for them\u2013however, don\u2019t say anything you don\u2019t mean, as that could be triggering<\/li>\r\n \t
  • Ask them about people they care about<\/li>\r\n \t
  • Practice empathy, but don\u2019t say anything like \u201cI know exactly how you feel.\u201d You don\u2019t know exactly how they feel, even though you may have experiences something similar<\/li>\r\n \t
  • If you have felt similar things you can say, \u201cI\u2019ve struggled with thoughts of wanting to escape or die too.\u201d This might help them to feel less alone. However, be cautious to not make the conversation all about you. Stay focused on them.<\/li>\r\n \t
  • If you haven\u2019t experienced thoughts of suicide, consider saying something like, \u201cI can sense how desperate you are from your voice. I want you to know that I care, and I am here for you.\u201d<\/li>\r\n \t
  • Don\u2019t try to fix their problems\u2013just listen<\/li>\r\n \t
  • Be aware of your judgements and your worldview, practice putting your judgements aside<\/li>\r\n \t
  • When the person is safe and you are able to leave, seek support for yourself. Speak to your supervisor or a counsellor at your school about your feelings. It is very important that you debrief with someone for your own well-being.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>","rendered":"

    When someone we\u2019re working with shares that they are contemplating suicide, it is important that we choose hope-based rather than fear-based responses. When we respond from fear, we react based on what we\u2019re afraid might happen or what we think might be wrong. When we respond from hope, we respond based on what we believe is possible and with hope for co-creating something new.<\/p>\n

    The following chart is shared from Shery Mead\u2019s Intentional Peer Support work and highlights the difference between a Hope Response (what we refer to above as a hopeful response) and a Fear Response (fear-based response) when supporting someone who expresses suicidal ideation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
    Hope Response<\/th>\nFear Response<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n
    Sitting with the discomfort of the situation<\/td>\nTrying to calm things down: stabilization<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
    Staying connected to the person<\/td>\nTaking care of, helper\/helpee<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
    Unpredictability = Possibility<\/td>\nPredictability: things go back to the way they were.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

    Some Things to Remember<\/h1>\n

    When supporting someone who is contemplating suicide, keep the following in mind:<\/p>\n

      \n
    • Remind them that they are not alone<\/li>\n
    • Express your care and concern for them\u2013however, don\u2019t say anything you don\u2019t mean, as that could be triggering<\/li>\n
    • Ask them about people they care about<\/li>\n
    • Practice empathy, but don\u2019t say anything like \u201cI know exactly how you feel.\u201d You don\u2019t know exactly how they feel, even though you may have experiences something similar<\/li>\n
    • If you have felt similar things you can say, \u201cI\u2019ve struggled with thoughts of wanting to escape or die too.\u201d This might help them to feel less alone. However, be cautious to not make the conversation all about you. Stay focused on them.<\/li>\n
    • If you haven\u2019t experienced thoughts of suicide, consider saying something like, \u201cI can sense how desperate you are from your voice. I want you to know that I care, and I am here for you.\u201d<\/li>\n
    • Don\u2019t try to fix their problems\u2013just listen<\/li>\n
    • Be aware of your judgements and your worldview, practice putting your judgements aside<\/li>\n
    • When the person is safe and you are able to leave, seek support for yourself. Speak to your supervisor or a counsellor at your school about your feelings. It is very important that you debrief with someone for your own well-being.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"author":123,"menu_order":11,"template":"","meta":{"pb_show_title":"on","pb_short_title":"","pb_subtitle":"","pb_authors":[],"pb_section_license":""},"chapter-type":[],"contributor":[],"license":[],"class_list":["post-582","chapter","type-chapter","status-publish","hentry"],"part":101,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/582","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/chapter"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/123"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/582\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":584,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/582\/revisions\/584"}],"part":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/parts\/101"}],"metadata":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/582\/metadata\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=582"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"chapter-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapter-type?post=582"},{"taxonomy":"contributor","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/contributor?post=582"},{"taxonomy":"license","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/peersupport\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/license?post=582"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}