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This section delves into two critical concepts in 2SLGBTQIA+ psychology: “coming out” and “inviting in”. “Coming out” refers to the act of 2SLGBTQIA+ individuals disclosing their sexual orientation or gender identity, a significant step towards personal authenticity and societal change. “Inviting in’, on the other hand, focuses on creating supportive spaces for these individuals. Together, these concepts shape the personal journeys of 2SLGBTQIA+ individuals and influence broader social attitudes and policies.

Coming Out

“Coming out” refers to the process where 2SLGBTQIA+ individuals disclose their sexual orientation or gender identity. It’s like sharing a personal truth about oneself, typically related to being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer (LGBTQ). This can involve telling friends, family, colleagues or the broader public about one’s true identity. Historically, as advocated by the gay liberation movement in the 1970s, coming out has been viewed as a vital step for political change and personal fulfillment (Shiltz, 1982). See the 10 famous 2SLGBTQIA+ Canadians featured in Supplement GS.15. Each of these pioneers and activists demonstrates that social change can happen when 2SLGBTQIA+ individuals reveal their identities to family, friends, colleagues or fans. These pioneers’ goal was to dismantle myths and foster acceptance of all sexual orientations.

Research supports the benefits of coming out, including improved well-being and social support (Stirratt, Meyer, Ouellette, Gara, 2007; Cass, 1984; Troiden, 1989; Vo, 2021; Kinitz et al., 2021; Wilson, Weiss, & Shook, 2020). However, coming out is not always safe or feasible for everyone. Risks such as physical harm, emotional trauma, or loss of housing must be considered. The decision to come out is deeply personal and should be respected. Allies should never disclose someone’s sexual orientation or identity without explicit permission, as this can cause harm (Lamothe, 2023; Prada et al., 2023).

Inviting In

“Inviting in” is a slightly different approach to coming out. Instead of making a broad announcement, “inviting in” is about sharing one’s 2SLGBTQIA+ identity with specific individuals in a more intimate, controlled and personal setting. It’s like selectively opening up to certain people whom one trusts and feels comfortable with.

The purpose of “inviting in” is to create a safe and supportive environment for the person revealing their identity. It allows them to have more control over the people who know about their sexual orientation or gender identity and how the information is shared and discussed. This method can be particularly helpful in situations where someone might feel unsure about the way in which their news will be received, or wants to ensure they have a supportive conversation.

The presence of 2SLGBTQIA+ role models in media also plays a significant role in shaping societal attitudes (GLAAD, 2016; Craig, McInroy, McCready, Alaggia, 2015; Forenza, 2017), increasing visibility, understanding and acceptance. While increased visibility has its risks, it is generally seen as a positive strategy for social change (Levina, Waldo, Fitzgerald, 2000).

In conclusion, the practices of “coming out” and “inviting in” are more than just personal experiences; they are powerful mechanisms that drive social change and foster inclusivity. Understanding and respecting these concepts is vital for anyone committed to supporting the 2SLGBTQIA+ community and advocating for a more accepting society.

Our discussion of sexual orientation, along with the concepts of “coming out” and “inviting in”, helps us to begin to understand important issues in the 2SLGBTQIA+ community. The choice to share one’s sexual orientation — i.e., “come out” or “invite in” — is deeply personal and can significantly impact one’s life. It’s essential to approach these decisions with care, considering both the potential risks and the empowering benefits. Ultimately, fostering a society that respects and values every individual’s sexual orientation is crucial for building a more inclusive and equitable world. The stories of Canadian 2SLGBTQIA+ pioneers and the legal strides made, like in the case of “Vriend v. Alberta”, serve as powerful reminders of the progress achieved and the work that still lies ahead in the pursuit of equality and acceptance for all.

Watch this video: Why Some Black LGBTQIA+ Folks Are Done ‘Coming Out’ (4.5 minutes)

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