{"id":86,"date":"2021-07-01T18:09:21","date_gmt":"2021-07-01T22:09:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/chapter\/exploring-our-own-feelings-about-suicide\/"},"modified":"2022-03-21T12:45:11","modified_gmt":"2022-03-21T16:45:11","slug":"exploring-our-own-feelings-about-suicide","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/chapter\/exploring-our-own-feelings-about-suicide\/","title":{"raw":"Exploring Our Own Feelings About Suicide","rendered":"Exploring Our Own Feelings About Suicide"},"content":{"raw":"<div class=\"textbox\">We all have feelings and attitudes about suicide, whether we\u2019re aware of them or not. This section helps participants to become aware of their own feelings about suicide, and it provides the opportunity to discuss what worries they have about engaging with another person who may be suicidal.<\/div>\r\n<div class=\"h5p\">[h5p id=\"3\"]\r\n<em>These slides are available for use with this section of the presentation. For information about downloading presentation slides, see <a class=\"internal\" href=\"\/suicideawareness\/front-matter\/introduction\/\">Introduction<\/a>.<\/div>\r\n<div class=\"pdf\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-164\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" \/><\/div>\r\n<h1>Feelings and Attitudes<\/h1>\r\nBefore we start to talk about how we can provide a support role for others, let\u2019s take a moment to explore our own feelings and attitudes around suicide. It\u2019s helpful to think about this ahead of time so that you don\u2019t bump into surprising feelings or attitudes while trying to support someone; this way you can make sure the experience is more about them. You don\u2019t have to do a complete assessment of yourself at this point, but this is an invitation to consider your own feelings and attitudes because you likely do have some beliefs and thoughts about this topic.\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s okay to have different feelings and attitudes about suicide. Some of these beliefs will be more helpful than others. The goal is to forget about some of the less helpful ones to make sure that the interaction is about supporting someone else.\r\n\r\nThere are people who believe that suicide is wrong. We\u2019re not here today to argue about the ethics or morality of it. We\u2019re going to focus on questions, feelings, worries, and thoughts. Please be honest but also remember that there may be people here who have experience with loved ones dying by suicide. Let\u2019s make sure we treat each other with compassion and respect.\r\n<div class=\"pdf\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-165\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" \/><\/div>\r\n<div class=\"textbox textbox--exercises\"><header class=\"textbox__header\">\r\n<p class=\"textbox__title\">ACTIVITY: What Questions and Worries Do You Have?<\/p>\r\n\r\n<\/header>\r\n<div class=\"textbox__content\">\r\n\r\nAsk participants to divide up into pairs to discuss this question:\r\n\r\nImagine that you are able to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide. What questions, thoughts, beliefs, worries, feelings come up for you? What are your worst fears?\r\n\r\nAs a large group, ask people to share their responses. (If online, people could share their responses in the chat.) Responses may include:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>I\u2019d be afraid that by asking they would start thinking about it more.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>It\u2019s so much responsibility.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>I don\u2019t have time to deal with the issue fully.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>I won\u2019t know what to do if they are considering suicide \u2013 what next?<\/li>\r\n \t<li>What if it\u2019s insulting to the student?<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<img class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-152\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/adaptation-icon.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"36\" height=\"34\" \/> <strong>Adaptations<\/strong>\r\n\r\nYou could also ask participants to think about their own beliefs and ideas about who does or does not end their own life. For example, a person may assume that seemingly in-control people are not at risk of suicide. Or perhaps they hold stereotypes or ideas about specific groups of people and suicide. This is a good opportunity to explore any biases.\r\n\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\nThe thought of asking someone about suicide can be overwhelming. One concern that people often have is that if they bring up suicide and a person isn\u2019t considering it, this person may start thinking about it as an option. That is untrue. Asking about suicide will not put the thought into someone\u2019s mind. It can give the person a sense of relief, (for example, \u201cFinally, someone has seen my pain,\u201d) or give them permission to open up further about something they have been hiding.\r\n<h1>What We Need to Consider Before a Difficult Conversation<\/h1>\r\n<div class=\"pdf\">\r\n\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-166\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" \/>\r\n\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-167\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" \/>\r\n\r\n<\/div>\r\nBefore having a difficult conversation, there are a few things to first ask yourself. If there is a student you think may be at risk of suicide, first think about your own emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and values. Ask yourself how you feel about starting this conversation with a student. You may realize you are not emotionally ready to talk to the student, and this is okay. You can reach out to other people on campus, such as a counsellor, to get their advice and support.\r\n\r\nIf you feel ready to have this sensitive conversation, you will want to think about how and where the conversation will happen. You will want to:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Create an atmosphere and environment of non-judgment and openness<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Consider any possible triggers<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Consider risk factors<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Ensure you are in a private space where you will not be interrupted<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Remember that compassion counts<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Be patient<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Be hopeful<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h3>Text Attributions<\/h3>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>This chapter was adapted from <em>Let\u2019s Talk: A Workshop on Suicide Intervention<\/em> by Dawn Schell, University of Victoria.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h3>Media Attributions<\/h3>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Slide 19: <a href=\"https:\/\/commons.wikimedia.org\/wiki\/File:Writing_Tools_-_paper_pen_laptop.jpg\">Writing Tools \u2013 paper pen laptop<\/a> by Pete O'Shea\u00a0is licensed under a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\">CC BY 4.0 license.<\/a><\/li>\r\n \t<li>Slide 20: <a href=\"https:\/\/thenounproject.com\/search\/?q=2283668&amp;i=2283668\">reflections of heart<\/a> by \u00c1lvaro Bueno, ES from the Noun Project\u00a0is licensed under a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\">CC BY 4.0 license.<\/a><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>","rendered":"<div class=\"textbox\">We all have feelings and attitudes about suicide, whether we\u2019re aware of them or not. This section helps participants to become aware of their own feelings about suicide, and it provides the opportunity to discuss what worries they have about engaging with another person who may be suicidal.<\/div>\n<div class=\"h5p\">\n<div id=\"h5p-3\">\n<div class=\"h5p-iframe-wrapper\"><iframe id=\"h5p-iframe-3\" class=\"h5p-iframe\" data-content-id=\"3\" style=\"height:1px\" src=\"about:blank\" frameBorder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" title=\"BCcampus, Let\u2019s Talk About Suicide: Raising Awareness and Supporting Students (Exploring Your Own Feelings and Attitudes About Suicide)\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><em>These slides are available for use with this section of the presentation. For information about downloading presentation slides, see <a class=\"internal\" href=\"\/suicideawareness\/front-matter\/introduction\/\">Introduction<\/a>.<\/em><\/div>\n<div class=\"pdf\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-164\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" srcset=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-65x37.jpg 65w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-225x127.jpg 225w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide19-1-350x197.jpg 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/div>\n<h1>Feelings and Attitudes<\/h1>\n<p>Before we start to talk about how we can provide a support role for others, let\u2019s take a moment to explore our own feelings and attitudes around suicide. It\u2019s helpful to think about this ahead of time so that you don\u2019t bump into surprising feelings or attitudes while trying to support someone; this way you can make sure the experience is more about them. You don\u2019t have to do a complete assessment of yourself at this point, but this is an invitation to consider your own feelings and attitudes because you likely do have some beliefs and thoughts about this topic.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s okay to have different feelings and attitudes about suicide. Some of these beliefs will be more helpful than others. The goal is to forget about some of the less helpful ones to make sure that the interaction is about supporting someone else.<\/p>\n<p>There are people who believe that suicide is wrong. We\u2019re not here today to argue about the ethics or morality of it. We\u2019re going to focus on questions, feelings, worries, and thoughts. Please be honest but also remember that there may be people here who have experience with loved ones dying by suicide. Let\u2019s make sure we treat each other with compassion and respect.<\/p>\n<div class=\"pdf\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-165\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" srcset=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-65x37.jpg 65w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-225x127.jpg 225w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide20-1-350x197.jpg 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"textbox textbox--exercises\">\n<header class=\"textbox__header\">\n<p class=\"textbox__title\">ACTIVITY: What Questions and Worries Do You Have?<\/p>\n<\/header>\n<div class=\"textbox__content\">\n<p>Ask participants to divide up into pairs to discuss this question:<\/p>\n<p>Imagine that you are able to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide. What questions, thoughts, beliefs, worries, feelings come up for you? What are your worst fears?<\/p>\n<p>As a large group, ask people to share their responses. (If online, people could share their responses in the chat.) Responses may include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I\u2019d be afraid that by asking they would start thinking about it more.<\/li>\n<li>It\u2019s so much responsibility.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t have time to deal with the issue fully.<\/li>\n<li>I won\u2019t know what to do if they are considering suicide \u2013 what next?<\/li>\n<li>What if it\u2019s insulting to the student?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-152\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/adaptation-icon.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"36\" height=\"34\" \/> <strong>Adaptations<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You could also ask participants to think about their own beliefs and ideas about who does or does not end their own life. For example, a person may assume that seemingly in-control people are not at risk of suicide. Or perhaps they hold stereotypes or ideas about specific groups of people and suicide. This is a good opportunity to explore any biases.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>The thought of asking someone about suicide can be overwhelming. One concern that people often have is that if they bring up suicide and a person isn\u2019t considering it, this person may start thinking about it as an option. That is untrue. Asking about suicide will not put the thought into someone\u2019s mind. It can give the person a sense of relief, (for example, \u201cFinally, someone has seen my pain,\u201d) or give them permission to open up further about something they have been hiding.<\/p>\n<h1>What We Need to Consider Before a Difficult Conversation<\/h1>\n<div class=\"pdf\">\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-166\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" srcset=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-65x37.jpg 65w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-225x127.jpg 225w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide21-350x197.jpg 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-167\" src=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" srcset=\"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-65x37.jpg 65w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-225x127.jpg 225w, https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/348\/2021\/07\/Slide22-350x197.jpg 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Before having a difficult conversation, there are a few things to first ask yourself. If there is a student you think may be at risk of suicide, first think about your own emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and values. Ask yourself how you feel about starting this conversation with a student. You may realize you are not emotionally ready to talk to the student, and this is okay. You can reach out to other people on campus, such as a counsellor, to get their advice and support.<\/p>\n<p>If you feel ready to have this sensitive conversation, you will want to think about how and where the conversation will happen. You will want to:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Create an atmosphere and environment of non-judgment and openness<\/li>\n<li>Consider any possible triggers<\/li>\n<li>Consider risk factors<\/li>\n<li>Ensure you are in a private space where you will not be interrupted<\/li>\n<li>Remember that compassion counts<\/li>\n<li>Be patient<\/li>\n<li>Be hopeful<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Text Attributions<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>This chapter was adapted from <em>Let\u2019s Talk: A Workshop on Suicide Intervention<\/em> by Dawn Schell, University of Victoria.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Media Attributions<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Slide 19: <a href=\"https:\/\/commons.wikimedia.org\/wiki\/File:Writing_Tools_-_paper_pen_laptop.jpg\">Writing Tools \u2013 paper pen laptop<\/a> by Pete O&#8217;Shea\u00a0is licensed under a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\">CC BY 4.0 license.<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Slide 20: <a href=\"https:\/\/thenounproject.com\/search\/?q=2283668&amp;i=2283668\">reflections of heart<\/a> by \u00c1lvaro Bueno, ES from the Noun Project\u00a0is licensed under a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by\/4.0\/\">CC BY 4.0 license.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"author":123,"menu_order":3,"template":"","meta":{"pb_show_title":"on","pb_short_title":"","pb_subtitle":"","pb_authors":[],"pb_section_license":""},"chapter-type":[],"contributor":[],"license":[],"class_list":["post-86","chapter","type-chapter","status-publish","hentry"],"part":60,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/86","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/chapter"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/123"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/86\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":168,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/86\/revisions\/168"}],"part":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/parts\/60"}],"metadata":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/86\/metadata\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=86"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"chapter-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapter-type?post=86"},{"taxonomy":"contributor","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/contributor?post=86"},{"taxonomy":"license","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opentextbc.ca\/suicideawareness\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/license?post=86"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}